Laughter - the Best Medicine!

When it comes to fertility and trying to conceive many people overlook the obvious solutions in search of bigger reasons. They go through countless tests and expensive lab works, hooking themselves up to machines, and answering all manner of embarrassing questions about childhood trauma only to discover that your barrier for conception is something as simple as wearing the wrong sort of underwear or leftover but thankfully temporary effects as the result of prolonged birth control usage.

Rather than skipping the preliminary trial and error phase many people head right on over to the doctor's office after a couple of months of trying. Many of you have tried for quite a long time, but out of mere curiosity have you tried any of the silly recommendations floating around?

Seriously, fertility can be funny business and most often is in order to be effective. Finding your sense of humor amidst a sea of loss and seeming failure can be quite difficult at times but allowing stress, fear, and disappointment to consumer your body can also flood your body with protections against getting pregnant. There are many times in life where laughter truly is the best medicine and this is often the case with infertility. So go out, buy all the books, read all the silly suggestions, try conceiving while standing on your head eating broccoli and oranges (for the extra nutrients of course).

While you may find yourself playing the blame game (it's really worse when you are playing and blaming yourself) for perceived failures and inadequacies the problem could be purely out of the control of both you and your partner it is important that you remember that bad feelings will often adversely affect your ability to conceive. It's a two-edged sword in many ways and yet you should try everything before putting yourself through the expense and strain-both emotionally and financially of going through the testing and treatment phase for fertility problems.

Don't stop with laughter though; though try anything you can think of to make you feel positive and upbeat. Get a manicure or pedicure, new hair cut, new shoes (always seemed to work for me), or create a mantra for yourself-a mission statement if you will. Most importantly though do not for once allow yourself to even remotely consider that not succeeding this time or this month or even this year is failure because it isn't. It is merely postponement.

There are many things you can do that will help you achieve the mental mindset that is required to actually defy the odds as well as logic. Do not think of an encounter as an opportunity to get pregnant but rather a chance to show your love for each other. Do not think of it as a failed coupling if you do not get the results you desire but change the results you desire from the act. Do not make intimacy about pregnancy and you will find that you are far more likely to forget what you are trying to do and simply enjoying each other, which is one of the greatest gifts you can give the bundle you will someday bring into your lives.

Your state of mind when trying to conceive and approaching fertility is one of if not the most important assets you have for achieving your goal. Keep in mind that most people do not succeed until they forget they are trying.