Although pregnancy can and does happen to many without any planning whatsoever, for some women, becoming pregnant seems an impossible task.

Unless there are discovered problems with the sperm or the ovaries there are so many factors that can reduce the likelihood of conception that in most cases, one is left bewildered and forlorn.

According to Bhia.org

in 30-40% of the cases, exclusively due to the female;
- in 10-30% of the cases, exclusively due to the male;
- in 15-30% of the cases, due to both the partners having detectable abnormalities.
- In 5-10% of the cases, the cause of infertility remains unexplained.

Couples seeking fertility treatment often enter into the treatment process with huge plans for the future and some degree of stars in their eyes.

This can be a bit problematic for many doctors and the couples as well. If you are planning fertility treatment you need to go into your treatment armed with the facts about your specific fertility problems and the chances of a successful fertility treatment with your specific problem. You also need to go in with the full knowledge that there are no guarantees. It is difficult to talk about failure when the future is full of possibilities but this is one direct possibility that should be considered.

There are many reasons you need to discuss what you will do if you find out that your initial fertility treatment was unsuccessful before beginning. One of those reasons, a very important reasons for many couples, is the fact that fertility treatments are definitely not inexpensive. You need to discuss as a couple and with your doctor what happens next, the cost involved, whether or not the insurance will pay for the treatment, and how far you are willing to go in order to see things through before you begin the process.

This will save a lot of heartache down the road if you agree and stick to the agreement from the very beginning.

It will do no good to finally find fertility success at the failure of a good marriage for financial or trust reasons. I know for many this is a difficult and almost inconceivable step but it is also a very necessary step. You should also discuss the importance of counseling throughout the fertility treatment process as this may help soften the blow or prepare for the future changes that will occur with success, whichever the case may be.

You should also discover options that are available such as surrogacy, egg donation, sperm donation, IVF, and adoption if it comes to that. While there have been many leaps made in the field of fertility treatment there is no definitive cure for infertility at this point in time or even on the horizon. For many couples around the world, alternate plans must be made. Do you have a backup plan if it becomes necessary and do you have a budget in mind for the sum total you are prepared and willing (as a unified couple) to pay for the fertility treatment process?

It is rare that the brochures in the office of a fertility specialist will devote a good deal of effort into helping patients deal with an unsuccessful treatment. It is their job to create a positive and encouraging environment for their patients. However, there is no instant cure when it comes to fertility and no form of treatment that has 100% success rate. This means that there are likely to be stumbling blocks along the way but all hope is not lost even when fertility treatments fail. The human body is an amazing piece of equipment and there have been those that have spent monumental amounts of money on fertility treatments only to find that once they ceased the treatments they were able to conceive.

This by no means indicates that the treatments in these instances were unnecessary only that they were initially viewed as unsuccessful though success was reached in the future. However if you have a plan for the failure you can concentrate on positive thoughts of a successful fertility treatment without the worry of 'what if' the treatment doesn't work.